"I have learnt through bitter experience the one supreme lesson to conserve my anger, and as heat conserved is transmuted into energy, even so our anger controlled can be transmuted into a power that can move the world." -Mahatma Gandhi
Probably you heard this beautiful true story. I read it a few days ago but it flashed in my mind again today although I think I’ve been heard it in the past but it gives an amazing true lesson that would be useful to remind us from time to time. The story is about Gandhi’s grandson Arun. In fact, he told this story during his keynote lecture on the Gandhi tradition of non-violence at the 21st annual conference of the Concerned Philosophers for Peace in 2008.
Here is the story: “When Arun was 16 years old, he once accompanied his father to the city and was handed over the family car to run some errands with the commitment to return and pick up his father at 5 p.m. Arun was excited about having the car all by himself, and in the city. He finished his errands and then decided to go to the theater to watch a John Wayne double feature. By the time it finished, it was 5.30, and he rushed to get to his father and arrived there to find him pacing up and down, worried. His father's first question was, "Why are you late?"
Arun responded with a lie.
He explained that getting the car fixed at the garage took an unusually
long time, not realizing that his father had already called the garage. Arun's father was quiet for a while, and then asked his son to stop the car so he could get out and walk home. Arun was taken aback, and asked why his father wished to walk. After all, home was still 1 miles away! His father responded,
"There's something wrong in the way I brought you up that didn't give you
the confidence to tell me the truth, that made you feel you had to lie to me.
I've got to find out where I went wrong with you, and to do that I'm going to
walk home." There was nothing
Arun could do to make him change his mind—and nor could Arun leave him and go away. Arun recalled later, "For five and a half hours, I crawled along in the car behind father, watching him go through all this pain and agony for a stupid lie. I decided there and then that I was never going to lie again.
It is really true when you study the lives of great leaders--their actions, thoughts, choices, struggles, failures, and triumphs--it unconsciously motivates you to be your best self every day. This article is also interesting and worth to read:
“Average leaders focus on results, and that's it. Good leaders focus also on the behaviors that will get the results. And great leaders focus, in addition, on the emotions that will drive these behaviors.”